What my 20-something life crisis taught me
Grab yourself a cup of coffee or tea, or a glass of wine and let’s get real for a minute here because we have some pretty important things to talk about.
I’ve always been the type of person who waits to live their life until the time is right. Until “someday”. Someday, when I’m in good shape, I’m going to wear that beautiful dress. Someday, when the acne clears up, I’m going to take lots of photos and hang them up in my home. Someday, when I have the time, I’m going to read my entire library and everything on my Goodreads list. Someday, when I have my dream home, I’m going to decorate it with the things I like. Someday, when everything else is right, I’m going to chase my dreams.
This is how I grew up. Waiting for someday. First, waiting for someday, when I’m a teenager. Then waiting for someday when I was in university. Then waiting for someday after I graduated and got a “real job” when I was in my 20s. Needless to say, the days of my life came and went all through my teen years, my university days and far into my 20s, and “someday” never came. There are seven days in a week and not one of them is called “Someday”. After all those years, I’m finally done waiting.
Around the time of my last birthday, when I officially entered “mid to late” 20s, I realised that my life was passing me by and I became somewhat obsessed with the idea of running out of time. Especially since 2018 was not a good year for me on a personal level and day after day, I kept telling myself “when this is over, my life will be like [insert dream here]”.
I was wasting my life waiting for the perfect time to start living it. I realised that I could wait for as long as I want, as patiently as I want and that time would never come, because life doesn’t work like that. There is no perfect time to live your life. You don’t get to delay it - you have to learn to live it while you have it.
That includes not waiting for Friday evening or the weekend to really enjoy your life either. Weekends only account for roughly 29% of the week. If someone told you that you would die only after living 29% of your life, would you accept it? Would you say “yes” to that arrangement? No, you wouldn’t. I wouldn’t. Though, for some reason we’re happy to spend our lives surviving during the week and waiting for the weekend. When the weekend does finally roll around, I’m too tired or I don’t have time and before I know it, it’s Monday again and the drudgery continues.
I know you understand what I’m talking about. At this rate, when I die, my life will boil down to a series of “Someday” or “I’m too tired” or “I don’t have time” or “I can’t be bothered”, and I know I will regret that. What I won’t regret, is working exorbitantly long hours, or mindlessly scrolling through my social media.
Of course, it’s not practical to just quit your job and ditch your responsibilities and do what you want all day until you run out of the money you need to support yourself. That isn’t what I’m suggesting and that isn’t what Paper & Belle is about. Paper & Belle is about learning to live your life the way you want in any time you can find, and obviously, the more time you find the better.
Notice how I said you need to “find” time, not “make” time. We can’t make more time. If there is anything that is guaranteed in life, it is the amount of time we have each day. That doesn’t change for anyone, no matter how much you want it to. You can’t make more time. If you want time, you have to find it.
It was after this epiphany of sorts that I decided to take charge of my life while I still have it, to learn to live my best life every day and to find the time for the things that make me happy.
If any of this resonates with you, then, congratulations! You have come to the right place. You’ve finally arrived and we can get to work together. Any journey is better embarked on with friends. I don’t claim to know what I’m doing or have any answers or have it all figured it out - because I don’t. I have no idea what I’m doing. I’m learning and trying as I go, so let’s learn and try together.
It was in the spirit of finding time that the new Paper & Belle stationery collection was designed. Yes, it was designed to be pretty and stylish, with a vintage flavour and co-ordinating colours and patterns. All of that adds a little sparkle to the more mundane tasks of everyday life and inspires us to live the lives we want. Most importantly, though, the Paper & Belle stationery collection was designed to help people like you and me plan out our days meticulously enough for our lifestyles in order to find the time for the things that matter to us and make us happy. To help us reach our goals and live our dreams. To start here, to start today and to stop waiting for the perfect time to start living your life.
If you’re ready to take this journey with me, then let me know in the comments below and let’s get going. Subscribe to this blog, join us on Instagram and YouTube. Get some stationery and start planning. Let’s do this together.
Because Happy Starts Here. And it starts with you.